What We Focus On We Create More Of

What you focus on, you create more of. That’s a powerful statement but think about it. If you are constantly focused on the negative aspects of your life or whatever it is you have going on, you don’t leave any room for growth. You block out all the room reserved for gratitude and positive manifestation. Do you really think you can manifest the life of your dreams if all you focus on is why your life seems like a constant shit-show? I’ll give you a hint, the answer if a very loud NO!

Let me give you a little glimpse into who I was growing up. I was a very shy person, and I often was made fun of because of it. I was the person with a really bad haircut who desperately wanted to fit in with the “in” crowd. I was awkward, not sure of who I was, and thus began that fun little thing called insecurity. I became someone who didn’t enjoy being around people. I would rather hole up in my room all alone. From that, I failed to see the positive in things. I grew into a negative Nancy. I was angry and I didn’t know why. So, I spent many, many, many years looking through dark colored glasses because that’s all I allowed myself to see. And you know what, I thought that was perfectly fine, I was OK. I’m not the problem, they are. Do you think I thought about mindfulness, gratitude and manifestation? Hell, I didn’t really start thinking about it until recently and I could kick myself for it. But I have given myself grace because I didn’t know any better. I had blinders on, and it wasn’t until my last relationship of three years where I slowly started pulling off the dark colored glasses. And I’m not talking about the way Tom Cruise did it on Risky Business, that was legend. I’m talking about really slow and full of hesitation because I knew what I was about to see wasn’t going to be pretty. I started to understand why I reacted the way I did when triggered. I worked with therapists and a couple of coaches, and I began to really look in the mirror of who was staring back at me. She was still that insecure, unworthy kid and I had to let her go. I wouldn’t date that person, which is probably why I’m now single (shrug, sigh, shrug). No regrets with that relationship, it was a lesson and without it I probably would not be doing this. And I sure as hell wouldn’t be stepping out of my comfort zone like I have been lately. Sure, that scared kid comes out still, but I can recognize the why and then assure myself and my inner child that we are safe and loved.

So again, what you focus on, you create more of. So, I have made the choice to focus on the life I desire, gratitude and love. Is it easy? It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s hard to rewire your brain when you have lived in a negative headspace for so long. I absolutely have days that I go backwards and then I feel guilty for it and then the shame comes. But I must let that go. I must constantly raise my energy and my vibrations so that I can align with all that I desire. Again, the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I owe it to myself. I deserve the life I desire; I deserve love, I deserve greatness and I will continue to work to achieve it. I say to you reading this, do not give up. Keep pushing forward, keep going even when it’s hard. The hard is what is going to make it all worth it. You deserve all that you desire, so go get it!

I’m stepping out of fear and choosing to walk into courage, and I hope you do too if you’re struggling. I’m building a community of like-minded humans, and I would love your comments and feedback.